A Positive Message When You Feel Left Behind Everyone Else
Emmanuel L. Rock, MS, ALC, NCC
Associate Licensed Counselor/Board Certified Counselor
Weiss Lake Counseling Services, Mental Health Service
839 West Main Street, Centre, AL
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There are times when we feel like life is whizzing by and we can't keep up with the day-to-day events. We feel like we're just going through the motions and not living. Many of your friends have started their own careers. You look on social media to see that one is announcing the due date of their first child. As these changes happen, you may think they are getting around the so-called “Game of Life” quicker than you, but that is not the case.
Most of us have been in a similar situation. We don’t like admitting it, but it happens. You feel inadequate compared to everyone else and feel like they are all doing better than you in every way possible, and that they are all moving forward in life while you are stuck in the same place. As a result, you are currently sitting down and thinking about your next move.
However, at these moments, you feel you can't maintain the same level of speed and
productivity as before. So, you decide to catch up. You find yourself getting worked up and start planning about how you can change those dreadful moments in life, even though you know it's impossible. As you slow down, you may lose confidence in your ability to move forward and make progress. You start to notice that people around you are moving past you and that you're not keeping up with the pace. You feel like you're falling further and further behind and can't seem to keep up no matter how hard you try. You feel so overwhelmed that you feel like you're about to lose control...
And within those brief moments, you feel more alive than ever before, yet you're still going
through life completely alone.
Take a deep breath. Inhale and exhale. It is important to remember that everyone in this world has their own time zone, which can impact how they live their lives. For example, if you live in New York but have family in London, you will have to account for the time difference when arranging video calls or planning visits. The people around you might seem ahead of you, but everyone is on their own journey. It seems like they have their life figured out.
That's okay! Just as you feel like those people are ahead of you, working harder and achieving more, there are also people behind you, who look up to you and your accomplishments. Everyone is running their own race, in their own time zone. You’re not early, and you're not late. You're exactly on time, and you're exactly where you're supposed to be.
Your goals, dreams, and aspirations will largely be based on the time zone you are in. You have the time to do so. It's important to remember that you shouldn't compare your life on Chapter 3 to someone else on Chapter 30, because everyone progresses at their own pace.